Give No Advice

As you begin to read this article, appreciate the contradiction. How can I write an article titled, “Give No Advice,” without appearing to give advice about that subject? I can’t. Wow, this was the shortest article that I have written.

How about a proposition, an assertion of my opinion, with a couple of examples to support that opinion? So, unless you are an expert in a particular subject, trained, in possession of degrees or certificates that attest to that training, and you have practical experience, I suggest that, “You should give no advice outside of that subject area.” This is legal low risk guidance. But, you might have legitimately useful advice for others even though you don’t have any fancy training and certificates.

Writing about this subject is therapy for me. I struggle with the idea of not advising grown members of my family, my friends, and (everyone else, like readers of my articles). I want all of you to benefit from my experiences. Sadly, I have learned that my noble intent does not often produce a predictable result. My giving advice or suggestions to family and friends (on moral issues, finances, jobs, and raising family) have fallen short or even backfired. It makes me feel as though I did something wrong, that I am culpable in a miserable outcome. Perhaps I should not have given the advice in the first place.

A saying in the U.S. Army: “If you break it, you own it.” In this instance, by giving advice that someone else used, I somehow own the breakage that occurs, even though I warned them that “this is your decision.” Do you see that giving advice is a conundrum, a difficult endeavor. Why is that? Simple answer: Adults, even those who are close to you, must make their own decisions, and they make them based on their current age and level of experience.

They tend to get their advice by peer association. If you are older, and even if they agree that you are wise, your advice sounds to them like “the answer,” and they may take your advice and use it without understanding it. That is why it is your fault (in their mind) if your advice does not work for them. Someone you love may actually tell you, “You gave me bad advice,” which means, “You’re advice sucks, man!” Ouch! All you wanted to do was help them.

Web search Colossians 2:4-15. The Christian Apostle Paul, in a Roman prison, received word from a member of one of the Christian Churches, that Paul founded, that “the membership is well-ordered, but those who would deceive the Christians are also there.” By letter, Paul guided the Christians, saying, “He is with them in spirit, if not in body (because he is in prison).” He reminded them of the big picture (they were saved by their faith in Jesus Christ), that there is no other authority in Heaven or on Earth (Matthew 28:18).

So, give no advice. Identify authority and accountability under that authority. With that said, any individual should understand what (big picture) is the right thing to do and why. Advice is all about how to do something, and the how varies. It is not your business to counsel another person on how anything is done.

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3 Reasons Why Hiring A Fitness Personal Trainer is A Good Idea

There are hundreds and thousands of people around the world that promise themselves that they will live a fitter and healthier lifestyle next year. Reaching your fitness goals is hard enough; how much more if you try doing it alone? Since you need all the help you can get, are fitness personal trainers your best option? If you really want to succeed with your fitness goals this time around, then, yes, fitness personal trainers are a very good idea. And main reason why fitness personal trainers are so great is that they offer benefit after benefit to their trainees. It is only natural that you are interested to learn more about the benefits they can offer. Here, we are going to go through a few of the greatest benefits you will receive from fitness personal trainers. So out of all the great benefits, here are only the top 3.

Personalized program is one of the greatest benefits to hiring fitness personal trainers. The body works differently in each individual, which is why it is never good to follow a ready-made program for everyone to try. You should follow a program that is for your body type and not for the general body types. But with a personalized program created by your fitness personal trainer, you can be sure that it will help you reach your fitness goals. So this wonderful benefit is yours if you hire a fitness personal trainer to be by your side.

Fitness personal trainers provide a reasonable fitness plan and goal. It is never wise to make unreachable and unreasonable fitness goals because, if you cannot fulfill it, then you will be discouraged right away. You try to fulfill those goals in the shortest possible time. But you should know that it takes time to reach those fitness goals. You can run to your fitness personal trainer and ask them to make a long term plan to reach those fitness goals; it does not matter how long it takes as long as you reach there. So if you want to reach your fitness goals, then you should really hire a fitness personal trainer.

Encouragment and support is yet another one of the greatest benefits to hiring fitness personal trainers. There are going to be lows and discouragements in any journey to fitness. You will have so many questions and doubts that could lead you to abandon your fitness goals and live your old, unhealthy lifestyle. You can trust that your fitness personal trainer will always encourage you, always inspire you, always motive you even through these moments of discouragement, thus you will be able to push through and try again. So if you want to reach your fitness goals, then you should really hire a fitness personal trainer.

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